I think being kind and having manners are completely different things.
You can have manners and still be mean. Having manners makes you a person, a person that can be brought in to society.
Manners are simple:
you dont eat before everyone else is seated,
you dont put your elbows on the table while eating,
you open doors for others,
you say please and thank-you,
you help pick up things if someone dropped them.
you ask the people in the room if they mind if the heating/air-conditioning is turned up,
ect.
Today, i was pushing a trolley full of books. I brought them into the elevator fine, but getting the cart out was hard, the wheels had gotten stuck. Then a bunch of guys that i know walked past, not asking if i needed help, but laughing at me. I was moving those books for my Global Issues teacher, i was doing a kind thing, why couldn't they help me get the cart out of the lift?
Then once i get the cart out, half a shelf of books fall on the floor, and more of them walk past. I pick 90% of the books up, and then a kid i know from 3 grades below helps me with the rest. He then walks away to talk to his friends, im still greatful that he helped somewhat.
Then i have to pull the trolley through a major door way, now i cant hold the door and push the cart. So there i am trying to do the two things at the same time, and there are a few guys from my grade standing there waiting for me to get passed them.
I ask polity if they could help me, but they're too slow to understand, or they couldn't care enough to listen. A few seconds later, a teacher passes by, and he helps me, but the students i know, and have classes with couldn't "be bothered" to help hold the door.
It really upset me, and it shows that it doesn't matter if you're kind, or mean. You still should be polite to people, and help them.
You can have manners and still be mean. Having manners makes you a person, a person that can be brought in to society.
Manners are simple:
you dont eat before everyone else is seated,
you dont put your elbows on the table while eating,
you open doors for others,
you say please and thank-you,
you help pick up things if someone dropped them.
you ask the people in the room if they mind if the heating/air-conditioning is turned up,
ect.
Today, i was pushing a trolley full of books. I brought them into the elevator fine, but getting the cart out was hard, the wheels had gotten stuck. Then a bunch of guys that i know walked past, not asking if i needed help, but laughing at me. I was moving those books for my Global Issues teacher, i was doing a kind thing, why couldn't they help me get the cart out of the lift?
Then once i get the cart out, half a shelf of books fall on the floor, and more of them walk past. I pick 90% of the books up, and then a kid i know from 3 grades below helps me with the rest. He then walks away to talk to his friends, im still greatful that he helped somewhat.
Then i have to pull the trolley through a major door way, now i cant hold the door and push the cart. So there i am trying to do the two things at the same time, and there are a few guys from my grade standing there waiting for me to get passed them.
I ask polity if they could help me, but they're too slow to understand, or they couldn't care enough to listen. A few seconds later, a teacher passes by, and he helps me, but the students i know, and have classes with couldn't "be bothered" to help hold the door.
It really upset me, and it shows that it doesn't matter if you're kind, or mean. You still should be polite to people, and help them.
agreed.. and i always remind people not to be judgmental. its important understand that everyone live in their subjective reality. good blog. keep it up.
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